Mrs. Rabban and I were..."pillowing"...before our son woke up the other morning. Since he sleeps in our room at Mrs. Rabban's request (that boy's gotta go!), we had moved to the daybed in the dormer. Well, at some point he woke up and started running through the house looking for us and eventually burst in on us right as I broke through to the 7th Gate of the Celestial Kingdom. Obviously we both yelled, "Shut the door!" and he made a hasty retreat.

Afterwards he was laying on his bed with that worried look. When I entered the bedroom and saw him, I rubbed his belly and said, "Hey there, buddy." He laughed and looked relieved. I didn't say anything about the interruption. Later he apologized to his mother, but she didn't go into any details with him about what we were doing and he didn't ask.

Good enough? And does anyone have a similar experience?

No. I'm only 13. :P

A few critical questions so that I can be of help:

How old is your son? And...

What does your wife look like? What was she wearing? What color hair? Measurements? Favorite positions? Has she ever been with another woman?

I think that's it -- if I think of more, I'll ask. I am excited to help you.

He's 5yo

@ Rabban

Time to explain the birds, the bee, and why a stork didn't bring your son to you.

I found that an open "scientific" explanation works best....all three of you.

No. I never have had that experience. But I probably might in the future.

And...?

AS a fourteen year old, my oppinion is not worth much. But.... At five, he does not need to know much about it. He does not need to connect what you guys were doing with having a baby until he is at the point where he might actually get this conclusion by himself. You never know where he is though, with TV and the like. Giving the so called "scientific" explanation is not good, because he might not know that what you were doing even had anything to do with the science of it all. This, of course, has a lot to do with exactly WHAT you guys were doing (-: I would leave it till he asks, unless you think he might ask someone else, outside the familly. YOU want to be the one to give him these answers. I know by experience that it is fun to ask these Q's on the forum, but YOU know your son best, and YOU ultimately should decide. Besides, you can always call 1-800 DRL-AURA! Now go do the right thing!

Ha Ha, its a much worse feeling when both your little ones come creeping in and you dont notice them right away. Well at least not til they start talking to eachother about whats going on. Hey, time to put a lock on that door.

Ask if they want to join in......no dont do that....hmmm.....if he doesnt ask I wouldnt tell

B

Apologize to him that he saw your hairy butt. Tell him that this kind of special hug is usually more attractive if it is performed by two lovely women.

Just my 2 cents......

:)

Tankgirl with a silky booty

Last edited: Tuesday, May 25, 2004 at 12:31:47 PM

I'm calling the feds. XD

LOL

Buy a lock...

@TG, How dare you tell everyone about my hairy butt! That was our secret! XO _{actually, it's not hairy at all}

We don't have cable or TV, just videos so there's not a lot of outside influence in that department.

As I mentioned in an earlier thread, he was molested by a 15yo female babysitter when he was 4yo, so in a way he's been in my position (literally). In that situation we told him that the babysitter was wrong to do what she did and that was something for mommies and daddies and married people to do. So now I guess he's seen the proof. %) We didn't want to attach a sigma to the act itself or shame him in anyway, so we tried to make that experience as positive as we could given the circumstances. So I guess he had a good idea of what we were doing after all.

@44

Mrs. Rabban

_{well, pretty much...} ;)

Rabban,

@interruption

Lol, im so sorry. I have had a few moments like that only not with my child (as I dont currently have one). I was with my girlfriend at a party we were throwing when we decided to steal away to her room for a few moments. Poor choice as there were a few coats stashed in that room including my younger sisters who came to retreive it while I was in one of my more emphatic moments. I cant imagine that she saw much more than my butt...but the thrusting couldnt have been a pleasant sight. We never talked about it but when I came down to say goodbye she did shoot me an uncomfortable glance. My advice....teach your boy the benefits of knocking first.

This has inspired me to start a thread for most embarassing moments/stupid acts so look for it soon everyone.

@ Rabban;

It absolutely imperative that your son does not feel it is his fault !!! You might not blame him, but the fact that he apologized to your wife indicates he believes he did something wrong. It was an accident and no one is to blame. If not corrected, this will mostly likely cause him to associate "doing the nasty" with bad behaviour that he will suffer from later in life.

Blaming a child for anything is just wrong.

P.S. That's not the stomach of someone who has given birth.

@ Fil

Very inciteful for your age.

Last edited: Tuesday, May 25, 2004 at 5:29:27 PM

Oddball, I see your point, but I think it was an acceptable apology. Perhaps the same thing could have happened with dorko and his sis. Afterwards she might have said, "Sorry about that." and he would have replied, "That's fine. At least you missed my Batman imitation." ;)

I don't think it's ever to early to talk to your kids about sex, drugs, cigarettes (especially if you're a smoker!), religion, or any of the other bitter sweet realities that bring so much joy and pain to our lives! Take it from a genuine sick'o! Talk to him about it now, and set him on the right path!

When I was 5, my Dad sat me down in front of a hardcor porno and said "watch and learn son!" I think it was to distract me while he did his drug deals... Let's just say, I didn't have much of a childhood. Thank god I'm still alive today.

Anyways... You should look it like this. He's going to find out anyways. Would you have him learn from you? Or the other kids / people that he has to see everyday while you're not around? Misery loves company, and believe you me... I drug a few down with me while I was in school. I'm not proud of it... But I have no regrets. It was just the hand God dealt me.

I think that parents that don't teach or discipline their children, do not really love them.

@Rabban

What exactly is he apologizing for? That he didn't knock first? That he ran around the house terrified that he had been abandoned? The kid's only 5 at that age doesn't know any better. You're gonna shackle him with some pretty big hang ups about sex if he is feeling guilty about this. Have you heard of doors locks?

One of my friends walked in on his parents twice ! As a teenager !

And he seems pretty... Normal. Yeah...

Last edited: Wednesday, May 26, 2004 at 6:58:55 PM