Last tuesday, my grandma was put on oxygen. It was said she was going to be on it for the rest of her life. This limited her by a lot. Now, just as we are coming to terms with something this enormous, we find out... She has a terminal disease. Let me tell you about my grandma, before I get too involved in things. 14 years ago, if she saw a squirrel in her 2 acre woodland house, she would go outside, and at the age of 73, she would blow that squirrel away with her '22. She drove, and made many cookies. Then, one day, she fell. We had no clue how much that one fall would change our lives. She was forced to move I "in town" so she could be closer to her friends. This was a terrible mistake. Now, because of that move, she is living in a less comfertable house, and she has fallen many more times. Also, her activity level decreaced. She has had a heart attack, lived through that, beast cancer, a survivor, high blood pressure since she was fourty, and stilled was kicking. But moving to a small confined area killed her. She has become clumsy, and is just not seeming to care anymore. We learned, my grandma, is going to have to live her worst nightmare- to die in a nursing home. And the worst part is IF she does (I still have faith) have to go into a nursing home, it will not be covered. We are already going broke here, my mom is working three jobs, and my dad is still feeling to $#%@$* sorry for himself to get one. This will probably be the end of my parents marraige, as well as the end of my figure skating carer. I am finally comeing to terms that I may have to earn the $20,000 dollars to go to college, buy my own car and auto insurance. I am afraid. Life jus seems to be crumbling apart, and the only lifeline I have is my sister. I am afraid of what happens next. If my sister gets the same thing my grandma has, and it is genetic, she will most likely die when she is 30, instead of ninety. I am afraid of what I do not know how to do. I just had to tell someone this. I am sorry for seeming like comlaining. I had to get this out, and I either yell you, or my parents. I chose you guys. Mods can lock this if they wish so. Thank your for listening.

Last edited: Friday, February 03, 2006 at 1:14:40 AM

I can see you have alot on your plate there....Theres not much anyone can do, but I'll pray for you and your family.

Yea, im touched PGG. I hope thing turn out in your favor.

lol I know what you meant isn't funny just how you spelled it is. Am I the only one who noticed that?

Any way don't give up hope keep your family together don't act like you have lost your parents yet, because you havn't. Matter of fact the number one people that you need to tell this to is your parents not us, a bunch of strangers. Tell them how you feal. Help them around the house any way you can like mowing the lawn or taking out the trash. I don't understand exactly what happened to your grandmother, but what ever it is if it affects your sister she will not die at 30. Your grandmother (I think like I said I don't exactly understand whats going on) is just suffering from old age, her body doesn't work as good as it used too. I'm a Christian and the best I can do for you now is just pray for you. I hope the best for you and your family.

Where abouts are you PGG?

Hang in there PGG :[

^^ State College.

Yeh, hope things turn out all right PGG. Have faith, have hope.
You and your family will be in my prayers.

...and oh, if your mom teaches at Penn State, you can go there for 25% tuition. Not sure if this helps but oh well.

Hang in there mate, my thoughts are with you and your family xx

@PGG, man I'm sorry times are rough for you. I think the best thing for you to do is be positive for your family. Show respect to your mom for the hard work she's doing, and try and talk to them about your feelings. It will help you out very much. Your dad obviously has some "issues" to handle, and someone who is too depressed to help support their family definitely has my pity, but he needs to get his act together. Tell him that you are worried for the sake of your family, but don't be rude about it. Help out around the house, make dinner once and a while. It may seem like a lot to do along with High School and such, but it will help in the long run. Help your mom especially because it seems that she is also having rough times. Best of luck...

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Last edited: Friday, February 03, 2006 at 1:15:44 AM

Thx all. The thing that really is seeming to hit me the hardest though is that I am going to have to get a job. Plain and simple. And about talking to my dad... Yeah. He got pissed one time over who was making lunches for the next day. He threw a fit, walked out of the house, and ever since then, it has been quite rough. He is impossible to talk to, and when I ignore him about how he says he should be able to run over pedestrians who walk infront of him, he calls me dumb and says that I should listen to him more. I am almost hoping he leaves...

But I am being ungrating. Thanks all for those who posted positive comments. :) kinda cheered me up a bit.

Well just think of it like a disney movie they always (I think) have a sad part and soon after every thing gets happy again like a wind-em up toy soon you gotta wind it up again. Well maybe I would like to be a stock boy maybe you can try that. Well I hope your little soap opera is over like most soap operas there short.
:[ hang in there, the light at the end of the tunnels near.

Life is plain hard PGG.

Everyone has hard times. My father got kicked out of his country in 1953, came to Canada, couldn't work as an Architect because his license wasn't honored in Canada so he was a draftsman for other architects. He met my mom they got married , (my mom was French-Canadian and he was an immigrant, so my grand mother disinherited my mom. My parents made 4 children, 3 girls and 1 boy. My father died in 1973, My sisters were 9, 7 ,I was 4 and a baby of 2 years young. My mother had to sell the restaurant business we had, went back to college, worked at night as a waitress and became a registered nurse. We as children all helped out at the house, it was very hectic and chaotic. I envied for a long period of time my friends who easily got all the wanted in material goods. I was angry at the powers that be for a long time. Time passed we all went to University. When my mother died in 1992 she was 54 years young. Every one remembers her as a strong, happy and great person. And I'm very proud and eternally grateful that she fought for Us and her.

Think of that seed that falls in the pavement and looks at it's cousin that is in fertile ground. What do you think it does, it just works harder to make them roots go into a crack of the pavement because life is hard but the will to survive and flourish is what makes the difference between us all. Look inside of you for that will , let it empower you to survive. If you get through this you will be stronger.

Good luck PGG,

PGG im sry to hear tat ur going through this hard time...i pray tat u and ur family make it through this troubling time in one peice..

Excellent post delta.

PGG

There comes a point in everyones life where this brutal truth comes home... Life is temporary and sucks a lot of the time. With all the stress and hardships there are two options. Keep fighting or give up and live off someone else. If you give up and live off someone else your life will be one endless stream of misery because that is what you chose it to be. If you keep fighting you will survive and find happiness in the middle of all the pain (don't ask me how it works but it does).

If the obstacles seem impossible to pass go around them. Sounds corny but it works. If you want to figure skate seek out sponsers. If you want to go to college find grants and loans and jobs to work as you do it (my parents contributed exactly $0.00 to my college). Some states have subsidized in home care for the elderly and poor. It just requires a h*** of a lot of work.

Don't know if this will help you any but it has so far worked for me.

Thx again all. I do belive this is exactly what I needed. Thanks.

@THE V-

This is the only problem with your plan. I am a guy, I am 15, I am very injured at the moment, and I skate at PSU... The chance of me finding a sponsor is very slim. I hadn't thought about it before, and I still might look into it. Thanks! :)

Ed? Yes? Did you call me?

I'm not the best giver and someone might have already said this because I didn't read every comment but all I can say is get good grades, have moral support from freinds (which I am sure you are getting) and to just hang in there only time well tell.
we're all prayin for yah
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