Hey all TT Dads

My daughter (3 months old) sleeps great at night..... That is once you get her to sleep, which is the problem
Anyone got any good tips, we have tried almost everything....

I am sick of getting to sleep at +midnight, WTF are we doing wrong....
Fatherhood is ruining my TT career... But I wouldnt swap it for anything.LOL

Thanks in advance
Squidy

Try not to let her take too many sleeps throughout the day. Give her meals only in the daytime. It sounds pretty cold, but if the child is having her needs met whenever she wants, you will definitely feel the result, as you probably already are. It's more work during the day, and the nighttime is pretty rough for about 3 days. But once you get her into a pattern, you will be a more rested father.

I am not a dad, but this worked great for me. Play oldies! Simple, and calming. I would also rcomend some pink floyd and train. Try and picture something that would give u a bunch a cool, morphing images in ur head, and thats what will usually work! Good luck, and remeber... She is only just getting used to going to sleep!

Yall gotta get that you made a big comitment. What memphis says sounds correct. For anybody. When you sleep in the day its harder to get back to sleep at night.

My son is autistic and his sleeping hours are/were crazy.if he sleeps even for 20 minutes during the day like a bus ride or something he could stay up the whole night.he is six right now.music at night and less sleep during the day and also what memphis said too.yes I think lonewolf has the answer
congratulations too

Last edited: Sunday, July 24, 2005 at 6:29:36 PM

SquidRing,
3 months is pretty young, and they tend to get better as time goes on. Try getting her to be sleepy by holding her, rocking, and so on. A friend gave their kid "dryer rides" (ON the dryer, not IN IT!!) or would go for a drive.

When my daughter was 3 months, she started sleeping through the night. We put her on scheduled feeding times, which some people object to. She ate every 3 hours, then would settle down and sleep. We also worked on getting her to soothe herself when she went to bed. (we didn't always run in and pick her up, but would go in and touch her back, talk quietly, then leave after a couple of minutes)

It's a tough time when they are little. But hang in there. Soon she'll be calling you names and telling you to stop playing TT and pay attention to her...

Best wishes, mate!

Last edited: Sunday, July 24, 2005 at 4:27:48 PM

LOL @ Squid. Hahaha.

Hehe. I kid.

I have a three month old as well Squidder. I also have a two year old I have to keep in his bed when his baby brother wakes up in the middle of the night.

Here's what we do. My wife breast feeds, but at night we give him a bottle of formula. The formula seems to suffice him for a longer period of time than does breast milk. That leads me to a funny little story. When my first son was an infant we had gone shopping at Best Buy for a television. I'm talking to an employee about different sets and then my wife walks up with the stroller. The conversation turns to a similar topic as you've brought to the table. He had an infant son as well. He asked my wife, "Do you mind if I ask if you breast feed?" We both replied with a yes. He then goes, "Damn it! That stuffs like chinese food ain't it? You feed them what you think is a ton and twenty minutes later they're hungry."

So my advice is try a bottle of formula before bedtime and dim the lights about 30 minutes to an hour before you want your kid to go to sleep. Over stimulating a kid before bedtime can make your life a bit rough since you won't be sleeping. We turn off the tv or radio and read to him while giving him some formula. It really seems to work. It also kind of gets your kid into a routine.

Is it possible your 3 month old is teething ? My Grandaughter started her first tooth right before she turned four months old ! God have mercy on you if that is the problem ! B)

Last edited: Sunday, July 24, 2005 at 6:32:19 PM

WOW can you believe such good advise comes from men. I'm impressed, My 5 year old put me through heck when she was young and sleepless. Only at night for the reasons you have spoke of, Feeding to late or keeping the child active with lights and noise before bed, only makes them restless I think. What I did, and don't laugh is I recorded a few songs in my voice that we played at night and low and behold it worked, the sound of my voice kept her sleeping. Guess they wake up at night and cry, but if they hear mom they stay sleepy, this may not work as they get older.. As we all know. But hey if my singing helped it's a miracle but I will take all those I can get.

Wow - cheers for all the advice guys. We will give your suggestions a try.
@Lone - no teeth yet, just checked.

Will let yall know how we go - thanx again.
Squid

@ Squid

Run the vacuum in the next room.

Discovered this by accident. I have no idea why it works - but it does....at least for us.

@Chief - mate got that one sussed already, however using the radio tuned in to static works a treat.
I beleive it is something to do with "white noise" - sounds similar to the mothers heartbeat when in the womb. Aparently in there the baby hears it almost as loud as a vacuum cleaner or hair dryer. But am trying not to use it all the time as it might get her into a habit of depending on it.
@Gamera - thanks for the congrats mate, I am stoked. All the best to you too mate. From what I have read autism isnt really well understood. Hope you are doin ok.
@ALL - thanks this advice is good. My wife Kate has been searching the web for advice on parenting pages etc and it is all contradictory and just generally crap. Cheers and I am now having a beer for all of you.

Drink up all

Squidy - from down under - where the water goes down the drain in the opposite direction, and the beer is cold and plentiful.... Except fosters... That tastes like piss.

Ok I ll tell u the sprirt of a baby. It seems I have interrupted my parent's sleep for 7-9 months. And I ll tell u what to do when she/he wakes up. (that isn't the question) My dad and mom went to a doctor to ask becaus I screamed every night. I must have had some good dreams ;). Anyway the doctor said that u should just let the baby scream, how hard it is for you let it scream. If u go to the baby's bedroom and look then it ll get used to it and start to scream every night to have some attention (god I was lovely in the old days ;) ). Anyway that is all I can say. My advice on getting it to sleep is read a book (for dumb TTers: not an adult thriller). Put on a slow music for little children (not classic) but just something quiet and gentilly (like Brian Adams or howsever u write his name with his CD 'spirit') Don't kill me if it doesn't work since I don't have children and if I had children they MUST NOT DARE to be annoying when I m sleeping XD.

-Scy
PS: I hope no1 is shocked with my text and if some1 is then 'sorry' ;)

Last edited: Monday, July 25, 2005 at 8:15:11 PM

A little rum in the bottle works miracles.

^{I'm kidding, of course. No really, a little rum. Kidding. I'm kidding. (shakes head back and forth)}

^ I was waiting for that one 44.

I plead the 5 on ^^ one ! :P

This is probably a new one -- heard it from one of my staff: kid goes to sleep in a car seat...not in the car...strapped into a car seat in the bedroom. I guess people will try anything.

LOL will try that mate ,,,,

Well Mister SquidRIng, it seems your life of being in heaven and hell has just begun! Now you say that your 3 month old baby is being hardheaded, and won't sleep without a fight, eh(not in real terms people)? Well you should first really know what you have done to make her go to sleep. What makes it worse? What makes it easier to get her to sleep? Usually some soothing music (like some type of soft violin music, or some sort of thing like what Scytheman said) will help (well it helped me a bit with my own kid). This is some advice I can give you, but if you want you can buy this book that may help you called "Sleep Baby Sleep" by Tammy Hussin at www.sleepbabysleep.com. But I recommend you to buy this ONLY if you have not found any good permanent way of putting your child to sleep (don't want you to spend $15.95 on a book that may have some simple things you could've thought up yourself)! Don't let the bedbugs bite!

-AO

Our children get read a story before bedtime. My daughter who seems to be the one who has a harder time sleeping, gets a story, something to drink, and has a small ambient sound machine. She particularly likes the night time/crickets selection.

I have found that with both my children, some sort of physical touch tends to clam them and helps them go to sleep. With either of my children I can simply go into their rooms and give them a back massage and the fall asleep within minutes. It should be very soft, and very gentle. We'll see what works with the third child scheduled to debut in November!

Kids ROCK!

An unorthodox way of silencing your kids is to use of a baseball bat. A couple of hits in the head should hopefully knock some sense into them. Hehe.

^ I think I'll save the baseball bat for the boys coming round to chat her up in about 16 years time !!!

@All

Sorry for bumping my old thread. But just a note to all that posted that my daughter is sleeping heaps better.

Memphis gets the cigar for the suggestion that worked the best. Mate thanks !! It took a while but works a treat. Cheers.
Big hug from missus!

Lone gets the crystal ball award - as she is just starting to teethe at just before 4 months. So thanks.... I guess. It makes her pretty stroppy but have got it under control.

44 - gets a big slap from wifey for the rum in bottle gag :P

Thanks all.
Squid and Grace

That's not the first time your wife has slapped me.

;)

Last edited: Friday, August 19, 2005 at 12:35:28 PM

^ ahhhhhhhhh so you are the dorky looking yank guy she was talking about who "couldnt get it up".............. LOL XD

Hows that go ? Oh ya "Duhhhhhhh" , as Homer Simpson would say ! Very funny SquidRing :P

I'm definitely not the couldn't-get-it-up-guy (must be a different yank). I'm not going to brag, but have you noticed how your daughters eyes don't really look like yours' or your wifes'?

:)

_{(If I've crossed the line and offended you, I'm sorry. Just playing around, of course.}

Hey squid, glad to help. Aw kids, gotta love 'em.

@ 44 - I will now cease to try and out-wit you. I am obviously wasting my time..... XD

Good news, squidy- you'll get more and more sleep as time goes on. Enjoy that kid- they're great!